This page contains videos intended for Parents and Teens. They will help you get a better understanding of what we do at Fire Mountain.

A Glimpse Of What We Do

Audience: Everyone.

This video is older, but contains a nice look into the activities at Fire Mountain. Once you join Fire Mountain as a resident, you are initiated into the Bear Tribe, a peer support group for the teens. (click here)


Life And Limb

Audience: Parents

This video was taken from a recent discussion with parents. The ideas are based on Love and Logic principals applied to teens at risk. Where do we intervene when we should get out of the way? What is “life and limb” behavior? (click here)


Two Things Cannot Occupy The Same Space

Audience: Parents

This video was taken from a recent discussion with parents. The ideas are based on Love and Logic principals applied to teens at risk.  When we want our kids to focus on what is important, can we give them space to do so? (click here)


The Changes Stuck

Audience: Everyone

In this video a parent describes how the changes his teen experienced at Fire Mountain helped him and his family. Lasting changes are possible. (click here)


The Coming Home Contract

Audience: Everyone

The coming home contract is an important document for everyone involved in the recovery, teens, parents, therapists, and us. It teaches many important concepts that are valuable life skills. (click here)


The Cycle of Addiction

Audience: Parents

The cycle of addiction is important to understand. At Fire Mountain, we take a different approach to addiction. Addiction is related to our cycle of needs and how those needs are fulfilled or not fulfilled. This is a fundamental concept that is important to understand. (click here)


Validate The Storyteller Not The Story

Audience: Parents

Using MVE (Mirror, Validate, Empathize) as a strategy is very useful to create a powerful conversation with your teen. What do you do when the teen says something you can not see yourself validating? You change the focus from story to storyteller!. (click here)


State Changes

Audience: Parents

There are 2 different kinds of changes in recovery. How they both work, who is responsible to guide the resident through the changes, and how the changes affect the resident’s life. (click here)


Get Out Of The Way! (Don’t Go Away!)

Audience: Parents

How do you balance staying connected and giving freedoms to at-risk teens? When suicide becomes an issue, how do you give space AND stay totally present? (click here)


MVE – Mirror – Validate – Empathize

Audience: Parents

Mirror, Validate, and Empathize. A strategy to deepen a conversation with your teen at risk. This is a communication only strategy! How to really listen. (click here)


Relapse Will Happen

Audience: Parents

Relapse is a part of recovery. The old dragon will show up in some form or another after your treatment. The goal is to see it! (click here)


Self Care

Audience: Parents

How do you role model self-care? What are you willing and not willing to do? Where do you find your willingness? (click here)


Everything We Do Is Therapy

Audience: Parents

Take care of yourself first and you will do better with your kids. You will realize where the healthy boundary is between you and your kid. (click here)


You Built The Trigger

Audience: Parents

How do we stop them? How do we get them to understand? How do we change them? The trigger is yours. You built that button. Trying to stop people from pushing that button is futile. So, what do you do? (click here)


Raising Strong And Powerful Kids

Audience: Parents

What does your self care look like? Where does your power come from? Kids model their behavior after us. When you take care of yourself, you show them how to take care of themselves. Show them what healthy self care looks like. (click here)


Awareness Of How You’re Feeling

Audience: Parents

It is important to assess the way you feel in any given situation. Ask yourself how you feel when engaging with your teen. Actions do not always have to be the same, but self care does.(click here)


Avoid Power Struggles

Audience: Parents

Parents have to give choices to avoid a power struggle. It is important that parents are good with the choices offered because teens have a way of choosing the option least desirable if given the choice.(click here)


Single Focus VS Diffuse Awareness

Audience: Parents

People tend to have either a single focus or a diffuse awareness when they do things and engage with their surroundings. Understanding which is dominant in your teen can help your relationship. (click here)


Love And Logic: Delay The Consequences

Audience: Parents

If your boundaries are not firm, they are suggestions. As adults, when we set boundaries, we are supposed to mean it. If not we should not have set the boundary. Adults set loving boundaries in loving ways. Another important Love And Logic concept is to delay the consequences. Wait until the heat of the moment is over. (click here)


Love And Logic: Try Not To Worry About It

Audience: Parents

The words you use are important when it comes time for the consequences discussion. You want to relate what you are willing to do and not do based on the current situation. Hand the problem to the teen and have them own it. Don’t worry about the problem. Let them own the problem and resolve it (or not) without your intervention. Let go of the results. (click here)


White Red Black

Audience: Parents

White, red and black are colors that are often found in fairy tales. They represent the world, self, and death (wisdom), as well as ways of being in the world. (click here)


MVE Core Beliefs

Audience: Parents

Look at it from their perspective. Imagine how they feel and let them talk. Try your best to listen and understand. (click here)


If __ Then __

Audience: Parents

When we have strong emotional reactions, it is because our core beliefs have been violated. Blaming others is not the answer. We need to take ownership of our feelings. My feelings are not your (the teen’s) responsibility. This understanding creates space for growth and change. (click here)


I Exist

Audience: Parents

Some kids have deep emotional wounds we cannot heal. We can, however, validate their experience. We need to let them know that we see them, hear them, agree with them and understand them. This way we let them know that they exist and are bing heard. (click here)


Boundaries

Audience: Parents

Boundaries, once set, are important to keep. Set boundaries according to what you are willing to live with and what you can accept. Create options for your teen that you can accept and are willing to abide by. Let your teen make a choice. These guidelines are important for both the teen and the parent. (click here)